Is Syndrome-Free Growth Possible?

The time you spend together is very special and belongs only to you. Don't lose this precious time to syndromes.

Even though it can be very difficult at times, time flies. I try to enjoy every second I spend with them.

I had downloaded a program for myself that would follow the development of the Sun. I saw that it was full of troubles, negativities and syndromes that I would experience almost every week.

For example, “Yes, your baby is now entering the 4th Month Attacks. There will be problems sleeping at night, gas problems. Don’t be afraid of the increased crying.” Believe me, there was at least one attack, one problem, one grief in every month. I immediately deleted it. Each new day that was entered expecting distress and negativity would of course come with new troubles.

These were the most special and beautiful days we have lived and will live. Instead of losing the process we lived to attacks and syndromes, we embraced it all. We embraced every month, every day and every second of development with love and filled them all with beauty. I learned a lot in everything. Thus, a Sun without any syndromes reached the age of 3, and a Venus reached the age of almost 1.5.

It is hard to believe, but when we reject them, none of them are left. We are experiencing zero syndrome, of course we have difficult times. Sometimes it becomes more difficult to understand what he says. When he cannot explain himself, small confusions, disagreements, even fights inevitably occur, but we did not choose to call any of them a syndrome. This was very good for both them and us.

Sleepless days come and go and settle in. Appetite may decrease and then increase. Sometimes, he/she may need more of your attention, may want to rest more. No development book, no insta mom, no website can decide on any of these, believe me. Seeing every cry of your baby to you, every desire to communicate, not as a problem, but as a brand new bond, a brand new beginning, will open and enlighten your path.

My advice is, if anyone talks about attacks and syndromes, get away from there immediately. Keep your baby away from this system that tries to perceive child development as a network of problems.

Our adventures with babies are inevitably tiring. If you always fill yourself with positivity during this process, you can see how useful this method is in coping with stress, turning events into positivity, and in crises. It is in your hands to make this difficult path more beautiful and enjoyable.

I suggest that you be careful about the words you use to your child even when you love him/her. Every negative word will find a response in him/her, so I always continue to guide him/her with positive words. We do not use words such as jealousy, naughty, sullen, mischievous, even jokingly. The child will shape himself/herself with the words he/she hears from you.

This positivity should definitely not be confused with being undisciplined and unruly. It is our sweetest duty to say “No” when necessary and to guide Him to the right and beautiful.

“ Children will experience many things on their development journey, some physical and cognitive journeys will challenge them a bit, while others will be perfect for them. As long as you are hopeful and cheerful, they are always more likely to be happy, laugh and have joy. Even if they have a hard time, don't forget that they have a wonderful companion like you by their side. There is nothing you can't overcome together. ”